Death and how are we suppose to take the lose of a loved one regardless of how old or young they are. These issues are dealt with on a daily bases with people loosing loved ones. However the fact is that do we help or do we just provide comfort for the ones we know are not going to be with us that much longer. I think that if an individual know that they are loosing a loved one they some what begin to understand that they are loosing that person and start the grieving processes a little early. Now not everyone knows they are going to loose someone and wont know till it happens and when this happens how do they react to this ending of life on short notice.My family lost a child at birth and they have still not come to terms of loosing that baby. You will never forget going into labor and expecting to have a healthy baby and loosing it right away. The grieving process it something that you will never forget. Once that child was born you feel like you are scared for life. I remember that day like it was yesterday even though it was 2 years ago.
The way you expect to and are told how you will grieve is different on how you actually do grieve. I feel like no matter what or how you prepare for the death of someone is not any different on how you feel if someone dies out of the blue whether they are young old or full of life laughter or even in a bed all day they are and will always be a part of you life...
This has touched me in so many ways. How do you feel about loosing something that you love??? or someone you have felt so close to but have never meant?
Sunday, June 9, 2013
Monday, June 3, 2013
Week 9 Retirement
Week 9 Retirement:
What would you do if you retired at an early age or even when you are suppose to? How would you keep busy and active in life when work was not a daily chore?
My grandfather retired at the age of 50 after running an electrical company for almost 30 years straight. He had a well known company throughout our city and surrounding areas. However he was kept so busy for 30 years that he didn't know what to do with himself. He drove my grandmother up the wall with him being bored and always wanting to go out and do stuff that she finally just shoved him outside to do chores out their which then became even more expensive because he started to build and restore old cars to keep himself busy and away from driving my grandmother crazy. Now he's 76 and now almost another 30 years later and 3 great grandchildren later he's still drive my grandmother crazy.
See he came from a family of 12 kids and a stepmother and father who worked very hard to support their family when he was growing up however feeding that many was a challenge. So when he became old enough to start his own company he took the chance however when he retired he didn't have a clue on what to do with all this extra time on his hands. My grandmother however was a stay at home mother of two and she did everything around the house so she was use to being home and not having to go out everywhere. That is when retirement really sunk in for both of them they still find it hard to not go out all the time and they try to keep them selves very busy. Got to love what grandparents mean to us when we are around them as often as we can be...
Where do you think you will be when you retire and become grandparents?
What would you do if you retired at an early age or even when you are suppose to? How would you keep busy and active in life when work was not a daily chore?
My grandfather retired at the age of 50 after running an electrical company for almost 30 years straight. He had a well known company throughout our city and surrounding areas. However he was kept so busy for 30 years that he didn't know what to do with himself. He drove my grandmother up the wall with him being bored and always wanting to go out and do stuff that she finally just shoved him outside to do chores out their which then became even more expensive because he started to build and restore old cars to keep himself busy and away from driving my grandmother crazy. Now he's 76 and now almost another 30 years later and 3 great grandchildren later he's still drive my grandmother crazy.
See he came from a family of 12 kids and a stepmother and father who worked very hard to support their family when he was growing up however feeding that many was a challenge. So when he became old enough to start his own company he took the chance however when he retired he didn't have a clue on what to do with all this extra time on his hands. My grandmother however was a stay at home mother of two and she did everything around the house so she was use to being home and not having to go out everywhere. That is when retirement really sunk in for both of them they still find it hard to not go out all the time and they try to keep them selves very busy. Got to love what grandparents mean to us when we are around them as often as we can be...
Where do you think you will be when you retire and become grandparents?
Monday, May 27, 2013
Week 8 learning to let go as Parents.
This always happens to me lately I have had to learn to let go of my children I know i'm crazy but it's hard. In the last 2.5 years i have become a full time student and also a full time working mother in the past few months. I was lucky in the past that i was a full time mother and stay at home mom and when i went back to work i had to learn to let go. As much as they wanted me home we all had to learn that this was not always possible and that we all had to get use to mommy going to work and school. I think I had the hardest time learning to adapt to not being around the children all day. This was something the children also had to get use to i attached a comic that I believe at one time or another all us parents have had to deal with at one time or another and we all have to provide support and love them as well as building a home for them and they just do not understand all they know is they want their mommy or daddy. How do you guys feel about children and your working or going to school full time? How is it that you can work and go to school and meet all their needs at one time?
As i said i loved being at home all day everyday. However I needed to get out of the house to be able to better help them and myself to live a better life. When they say that sometimes you just have to let go. Well then when is the right time to do so?
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Sunday, May 19, 2013
Week 7 Relationships and love
Love!!! What is love what does it mean?
What does love mean to you there are many different meanings to love and the way it follows you through your teens to adult hood. Love in adulthood can be turned into romantic love which in turn can become complicated. However we learn what love is from our parents and can discover where and how to become a wonderful caring partner in life.
Love and relationships have come along way from being married at the age of 18 and a stay at home parents and wife to becoming and hard working parents and wife. Divorces are not frowned upon and are now accepted into our world. However there are women and men who are not accepting of this love and are abusive to their mate and this is however getting worse it was always bad but became known more to us in the past few years. I find this horrible and embarrassing to marriages.
There is something that is just not right and there should be some more changes. How do you feel about marriages and relationships? What is your in take on abusive situations.
What does love mean to you there are many different meanings to love and the way it follows you through your teens to adult hood. Love in adulthood can be turned into romantic love which in turn can become complicated. However we learn what love is from our parents and can discover where and how to become a wonderful caring partner in life.
Love and relationships have come along way from being married at the age of 18 and a stay at home parents and wife to becoming and hard working parents and wife. Divorces are not frowned upon and are now accepted into our world. However there are women and men who are not accepting of this love and are abusive to their mate and this is however getting worse it was always bad but became known more to us in the past few years. I find this horrible and embarrassing to marriages.
There is something that is just not right and there should be some more changes. How do you feel about marriages and relationships? What is your in take on abusive situations.
Monday, May 13, 2013
Week 6 Teen Depression
Teen Depression and how it effects today's teens:
Teens as well as young children display a small amount of signs of depression. However i noticed that when i was younger depression hit me about the age and time of high school when girls judged and boys were mean. The hormone imbalance i think played a really big role in my depression which sent me in the wrong way in life...
They say that children begin to withdraw them selves from their friends and family locking them selves away and feeling worth less and sad all the time. Some individuals tend to feel like everyone is against them and that they can not do anything right. I can defiantly understand where they are coming from and understand where they are in their life myself and my son were and have been at one time diagnosed with depression and it's a horrible thing to go through you feel like nothing is worth doing or saying. You feel worthless and tired and you don't want to do anything. My son is going through this right now they say it's that age but i know that it's his ADHD and the fact that he started a new school this year and i know that can be hard. I wish that this was not a true part of life but teens and some adults commit suicide or try to at least they feel like no one wants them and that they can not please anyone when we all know that it's not true. I think that schools should have more education and parents on what depression signs look like and how to help prevent or even just sit with the person in need. What do you think of depression i know a lot of people don't believe that it's real and that it's all in our heads????
Teens as well as young children display a small amount of signs of depression. However i noticed that when i was younger depression hit me about the age and time of high school when girls judged and boys were mean. The hormone imbalance i think played a really big role in my depression which sent me in the wrong way in life...
They say that children begin to withdraw them selves from their friends and family locking them selves away and feeling worth less and sad all the time. Some individuals tend to feel like everyone is against them and that they can not do anything right. I can defiantly understand where they are coming from and understand where they are in their life myself and my son were and have been at one time diagnosed with depression and it's a horrible thing to go through you feel like nothing is worth doing or saying. You feel worthless and tired and you don't want to do anything. My son is going through this right now they say it's that age but i know that it's his ADHD and the fact that he started a new school this year and i know that can be hard. I wish that this was not a true part of life but teens and some adults commit suicide or try to at least they feel like no one wants them and that they can not please anyone when we all know that it's not true. I think that schools should have more education and parents on what depression signs look like and how to help prevent or even just sit with the person in need. What do you think of depression i know a lot of people don't believe that it's real and that it's all in our heads????
Monday, May 6, 2013
Week 5
Parenting styles and differences:
There are so many different styles of parenting and every parent is different in their parenting styles. However, Not every style is the best to be taught. Some parents are more hands on with school work, discipline or even just staying on top of what their child is doing at any moment. Then there's parents who let their children do what ever they want to. With this style of parenting children don't tend to care about what their parents think or how they feel about what they are doing. With the parent who is all over their children's doing are always looking over their back wondering about what is going to happen if their parents find out. Why do you think that these two different styles are so different and how do you feel about how they justify discipline or how the children turn out?
I read in chapter 7 that your income level tends to explain how you parent and how you children are raised depends on where you live or how you live or even how stressed out you life is. I don't think that this is all true but i do understand how parents are to tried to deal with there kids when they get home and they don't have time because they work all the time. However as a parent my self I like to think that my children are polite and respectful to others and always mind their own around our house. I work about 32 hours a week and go to school for 6 hours a week and then my husband works any where between 40 to 50 hours a week. however my kids have respect they help around the house and I do not allow them to just wonder the streets at anytime however I do allow them their own time to just be kids but have there respect to my husband and i at the same time with consequences for their actions if in trouble.
How do you feel about parenting and do you think that children should be allowed to do what they want to do?
There are so many different styles of parenting and every parent is different in their parenting styles. However, Not every style is the best to be taught. Some parents are more hands on with school work, discipline or even just staying on top of what their child is doing at any moment. Then there's parents who let their children do what ever they want to. With this style of parenting children don't tend to care about what their parents think or how they feel about what they are doing. With the parent who is all over their children's doing are always looking over their back wondering about what is going to happen if their parents find out. Why do you think that these two different styles are so different and how do you feel about how they justify discipline or how the children turn out?
I read in chapter 7 that your income level tends to explain how you parent and how you children are raised depends on where you live or how you live or even how stressed out you life is. I don't think that this is all true but i do understand how parents are to tried to deal with there kids when they get home and they don't have time because they work all the time. However as a parent my self I like to think that my children are polite and respectful to others and always mind their own around our house. I work about 32 hours a week and go to school for 6 hours a week and then my husband works any where between 40 to 50 hours a week. however my kids have respect they help around the house and I do not allow them to just wonder the streets at anytime however I do allow them their own time to just be kids but have there respect to my husband and i at the same time with consequences for their actions if in trouble.
How do you feel about parenting and do you think that children should be allowed to do what they want to do?
Sunday, April 28, 2013
Week 4 post!!! Special Children, Special Needs
Children with disabilities.
So to start off with when i was reading chapter 6 i realized that i was looking in to my step-sons life who happens to have ADHD. I did not know that in the early before 1980 this condition was named hyperactive child syndrome they happen to renamed it to Attention-Deficit Hyperactive disorder in the 1980.
Child who are diagnosed with ADHD are often hyperactive, inattention and impulsivity. My son experiences these symptoms on a daily bases it happens to be very hard for him to make friends to focus at school and even at home you can not just tell him once you have to tell him a million times (this is how it feels to me) he was at one point failing at school and was getting in a lot of trouble. My husband and I began to think it was our doing and that maybe we weren't putting in enough time with him with his school work. However that was not the case and we had to take action and help him to be the person that he could be and that was a bright and intelligent boy. We ended up going to a psychologist to get him help and they ended up putting him on Ritalin to help pay attention and to help him better in his school. This was the best thing for him he went from failing in school to exceeding. He has lots of friends and loves life he now only has to be told a couple of time to do something how. However not all children need to be medicated it can be controlled with diet and help.
So to start off with when i was reading chapter 6 i realized that i was looking in to my step-sons life who happens to have ADHD. I did not know that in the early before 1980 this condition was named hyperactive child syndrome they happen to renamed it to Attention-Deficit Hyperactive disorder in the 1980.
Child who are diagnosed with ADHD are often hyperactive, inattention and impulsivity. My son experiences these symptoms on a daily bases it happens to be very hard for him to make friends to focus at school and even at home you can not just tell him once you have to tell him a million times (this is how it feels to me) he was at one point failing at school and was getting in a lot of trouble. My husband and I began to think it was our doing and that maybe we weren't putting in enough time with him with his school work. However that was not the case and we had to take action and help him to be the person that he could be and that was a bright and intelligent boy. We ended up going to a psychologist to get him help and they ended up putting him on Ritalin to help pay attention and to help him better in his school. This was the best thing for him he went from failing in school to exceeding. He has lots of friends and loves life he now only has to be told a couple of time to do something how. However not all children need to be medicated it can be controlled with diet and help.
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